Compulsive Sexual Behaviours

Counselling for Sex & Porn Addiction

Compulsive sexual behaviours describes any activity involving sex or porn use which feels ‘out of control’.  This could include masturbation, watching porn, engaging in cyber sex, sleeping with strangers, visiting sex workers. It is not the behaviour itself that is the issue, but your relationship with it. If it is having a destructive impact on some areas of your life, including your work, finances, relationship or sexual wellbeing, and your attempts to stop it are proving unsuccessful, you may benefit from some extra support.

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I am a registered member of the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsion (ATSAC) can provide a non judgemental space to talk difficulties such as those described above, that are worrying you. We can complete an assessment and explore the causes. I can offer you support to maintain the motivation to change. But this is only the first stage, together we can create strategies to manage relapse and explore changes that you would like to make to achieve recovery to a rewarding life in which you are able to thrive without the need for the behaviours. 

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This is an issue that people from all walks of life can struggle with, regardless of age, gender, religion, sexuality and it is often surrounded by feelings of conflict and shame, it can be very hard to seek support for these reasons, but please do not let that deter you.

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Please be aware that I am only trained to support people with non-offending behaviours. If you are concerned that your behaviour has crossed this line then you may wish to seek support from a specialist agency such as http://www.stopso.org.uk/

Counselling for Partners of Sex and Porn Addicts

Life throws many surprises at us, but the discovery or disclosure of your partner's sex or porn addiction can be devastating. It can leave you in a state of confusion with feelings of sorrow, betrayal, anger amongst others.
It can be helpful to have some individual support at this time, to have a safe space where you can express these conflicting emotions and have the pain that you are feeling heard and recognised.  I can support you to gain a better understanding of what sex and porn addiction is and that it is not your fault or responsibility. Further into counselling, when you are feeling more safe, you may wish to consider what your future options and choices might be.

Couple Counselling for Sex & Porn Addictionn

As a qualified couple counsellor, I have undertaken additional training to support couples with the challenges of sex addiction. This is often most helpful  following some individual therapy when you may want to focus on disclosure, the decision of whether to stay together or separate, rebuilding trust and creating a mutually rewarding relationship, or overcoming sexual difficulties.  However following initial discovery or disclosure you may also be seeking a space to talk through immediate concerns and decisions.