Help for Your Sex Life
Understanding and resolving sexual difficulties
Lots of people have a problem with sex at some point in their life and for some people these sexual problems can cause a lot of distress and unhappiness but it can be really difficult to talk about them. Some people have had a long standing difficulty. Others may have insufficient or misleading information which limits them forming an intimate sex life. Other people find that their once good sexual relationship has declined and struggle to recapture it.
I have completed extra training in supporting people with these sorts of difficulties. Sex therapy is a special type of counselling which helps individuals and couples address a variety of problems and concerns with their sex life and is most suited to situations where you feel that your relationship is fine, if only the sexual difficulty could be if sorted.
In counselling we start with assessment, exploring the difficulties, the background to them and what you want to achieve as a first step, it can take a few weeks to really understand them. It may be that we need to rule out physical causes, so you may need to seek advice from a GP. If we then all agree that a therapy programme could be helpful, you will never be asked to do anything more than talk in sessions, but you will need to be able to put aside some time to complete tasks at home. These behavioural tasks often follow a tried and tested programme called 'Sensate Focus'.
From experience, I know that it can feel excruciatingly embarrassing to talk about sex, but please do not let this put you off, I can assist in overcoming this.
Sex therapy is adaptable for all ages, abilities, ethnicities and sexual orientation. I see individuals and couples; if you are in a relationship, even if it feels like one person's problem, it affects both and so it is usually most helpful to undertake this together.